"I think my DB coach would say that would be anti-Stage 1, reducing negative emotions with WAW."

True, but this is your home we're talking about.

Let me ask you this then...what leverage do you have of getting her back when she has everything?

Right now it seems like the message you're giving out is "hey I'll give you everything you want while you're waiting for OM".

M-43 W-40
2D - 9 and 5

Emotion, yet peace.
Ignorance, yet knowledge.
Passion, yet serenity.
Chaos, yet harmony.
Death, yet a new life.

RECONCILED AND WISER