Thanks Yellowrose, I really really needed to hear that. Usually I am so patient, it is just the first positive thing that has happened, it is hard to not want more right away, right now
SL - my h was resisting me big time in the first 6 months. I was doing everything wrong but he didn't know how to tell me to stop, didn't want to hurt me so just used to be silent/ not turn up to arranged dates etc. Finally he said 'stop' and luckily I found DBing. I then let him contact me, which he did roughly every week to couple of weeks by text or email or occasional meeting about finance stuff and our house. I also have been working on reducing guilt and finally nearly 10 months later we have come to a point where he could express that he missed me as a friend, wanted to meet up, enjoyed it when we did meet up and thought about me (the biggest thing for me as I was convinced he didn't think about me). We have not had a r talk since last May, the point I think is that if I had forced this before I would have got a different reaction. It had to be when he was ready, no matter how frustrating! Patience, patience and it seems more patience sigh! Sorry for the hijack YR!
