To you... I thank you and hope to hear more from you and gain insight to either 1) save my precious family/marriage or 2) have the courage to stand up for myself and who I am.
Why do you think these are mutually exclusive? It frustrates me to see this again and again. Standing up for yourself does not mean throwing your family away. It means having enough self respect to know what you are and are not willing to put up with and explaining those boundaries. How do you expect your W to respect you if you don't respect yourself?
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Well, I think it is time for me to just give up... go dark.
Going dark does not mean giving up. Have you read DR or DB? Read it again. You are not understanding the point of LRT. Going dark is to help you detach and use the time and space to work on yourself. It is not supposed to be a punishment of your spouse.
You are on an emotional roller coaster. Do not make any decisions out of emotions. Before you do anything take 24 hours to let it sit. Think things through as rationally as you can.
Puppy Dog Tails is the master in these sitchs. See if you can find him and ask him to check out your thread.
Last edited by pearlharbr; 04/07/0905:33 PM.
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