First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Interesting question WP.

I think I could trust her again, if she was behaving in a trust worthy manner.

Will I ever blindly trust her again? NO. And I don't know if that's a bad thing. I think sometimes blindly trusting someone to act the way you expect them to act can lead to taking them for granted. I was so sure that she'd never do something like that, I think it let me not pay enough attetion to the marriage.

In his books, Dr Harley talks about how a spouse should NEVER blindly trust their spouse. And I agree with him. And if I'd have NOT blindly trusted her, maybe we could have nipped this affair in the bud BEFORE it got to the "love" point with her ready to walk away.

Everyone is different in whether they can trust again after something like this. And if you can't, I don't think anyone would blame you.

But don't expect that trust to come back for quite a while. It'll just take time, if it ever comes. It's like I tell my kids all the time. Trust is something that is always being built and can be lost in a second.

Just wish my W would think about that when she gets bunged up when I ask her where she's been or what she's been doing. She see's it as controlling. I see it as she's wrecked any trust I have in her and she needs to EARN that trust back.

Hope this helps.