Thank you everyone. Without this place and you wonderful people, this would have been so much more difficult.
Well that is that, I am ok with what we have settle on. It's not exactly what I had planned, however it is reasonable.
We basically sat in a conference room and hashed things out. I am happy with the way that part of it went. There was one issue that I ended up letting go, at this point it just seemed insignificant and I wanted to remain as reasonable as possible. Everyone got along fine it was very civil.
There came a point where our lawyers left us alone for about 5 minutes to discuss personal property.
After it was discussed, I asked her if she really wanted this.( at this point there was nothing to lose) No response. I told her that I felt this is a mistake and I broke the rules and told her that I still loved her. Her chin started to quiver and tears welled up in her eyes. She simply said "stop your making me feel bad......it's just too late." I said I'm sorry, but I don't think it is. You said that six months ago. After that I could feel myself starting to get a little choked up so I gathered myself and said no more.
Once the agreement was made we stood before the judge. She had to answer a few yes or no questions. All of the first three she confidently said yes to. The last question asked was, Do you feel there is any chance of a reconciliation? She said no in a voice you could barely hear.
I watched her from time to time. At certain points she acted ok, and at others she was on the verge of tears.
I just have a strong sense that she feels that this is her only way out and she could not see how to get past all of this.
All in all I feel good with the way things went. Could I have been a little more difficult and really stuck to my guns? Yes on one issue, but in the end it just wasn't worth doing that.
Today I am happy with myself. Still way too fresh to think about what lies ahead so it's one day at a time. I now have to really start doing some work to get my finances straight.
I have faith that everything will work out, it always does.
