She obviously "misunderestimates" you -- at her peril.
You should tell her, if you haven't done so already, that you fully intend to have her boyfriend deposed if she goes thru with this. It's amazing how even the most loyal, supportive ones run like screaming banshees and throw their paramours under the bus when they have a legal oath (and potential perjury charges) hanging over their heads.
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Yeah her attorney actually postponed our deposition that was supposed to occur last Friday. She had a good excuse (sick family member) but also the weekend prior was when W spent the whole weekend at OM's house while I had D1. Part of me wonders if she was postponing strategically because she didn't want W to be hammered in the deposition.
Unfortunately, I don't think W realizes what perjury is or that she could go to jail for lying under oath. I could tell her I'm going to have OM deposed (and I am, just not sure telling her will help) and she would probably tell him and he'd puff out his chest, talk crap, and get drunk because he is an idiot himself.
Reality will hit at some point, and W's first taste of it was our preliminary emergency hearing where they walked in with the idea that I would end up with 2 Sundays a month visitation, paying $500 a month in child support, and she would get $8000 out of savings she wanted. Instead they walked out giving me every single Saturday, $200 a month in support, and she got no money from savings.
I'm not like 99% of people in my state. I know how to enunciate, I have (had now) a 4.0 GPA in college, I read Roman philosophy, English Literature, and am a very educated person.
When hit with D papers I didn't panic, hired a PI, got my evidence, counterfiled, and have built a solid case in a short period.
Her attorney spent a lot of time sizing me up during that initial negotiation and since that time W and her family have been muted in their behavior, although they have had a lot of bluster recently when I reconfronted on the A.
I keep my cool. Calm and collected. Haven't called W any names, just referenced her A in general terms in a couple of conversations where I asked her to end it, and then just act nice, polite, and cordial to her face. I know anything I say will just jeopardize my position, or give her 'justification' to say she was right about me and she can have an A guilt-free.
She acts guilt-free, but seems intent on needing me to be a bad person, so it seems to me like she does feel guilty to a point, but is trying to project that guilt onto me. I'm not biting, and am being as nice and respectful as I can be.
I've also set boundaries - she can come to my house to pick up D1, but otherwise needs to leave immediately because she does not live here any longer. I have my own provisions for D1, so I don't require W to provide anything. She doesn't seem to like that very much, because that is a sign of me moving on as a father - and no longer available as a husband.
She was very muted on Saturday and didn't want to look me in the eyes or talk at all when picking up D1.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
