((((Sam))))...well, at least she's not blaming you. That's something. I've been blamed for everything.
I think your best approach with her family is the one you are apparently already taking. The one where you just make sure you don't say anything else. That's really all you can do. And, at some level, it may not be so bad that they are on your side. I know it appears to be right now, but later, when she's thinking more rationally, their feelings may have a positive impact on the sitch.
I've been really caught up in my mess the past few days, but I'm done with that for a while. So, I'll try to keep up with you a little better.
Hugs and love to you and the boys! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!