Strength and honor, my good man -- strength and honor.
There is NO comparison between you and OM when it comes to character and integrity, for the reasons you state and more. Your W -- if she gets some help -- may see that someday. It's sad to see her MIL enabling her; out of love, no doubt, but it does nothing to help her daughter.
btw, what state ARE you in, and why couldn't I have been married there??
