My story

[Mountain_Biker]

Pearl - I have read your summary and think you are a very strong person and I admire you greatly for the risk you took, but more so being the person you are and taking care of you and your needs.

Thank you so much for sharing your story as it inspires me to know that "I" am ok.

With that I am still confused (eggshells). I do know the book says to wait it out and be the better person. I have done that and she has noticed, but it is not complete yet. I have 2 small children that I must take care of and that means "me first". Because we all know that if "I" am not ok, then I cannot take care of them.

So, for now I think I wait and "play the game". I am the better person and she may see that. I will give it a month to May 1st and DB like mad and take care of me (GAL). Once I get to May 1... as you say I may decide to "go dark". Maybe then she will realize who I am and that 15 years with a good man is not worth a fairy tale of an EA that will never live forever... someday that will become "ordinary" and she will need to look for something new again.

To you... I thank you and hope to hear more from you and gain insight to either 1) save my precious family/marriage or 2) have the courage to stand up for myself and who I am.