I hear you, loud and clear. I know I need to do some things differently, because what I have done so far hasn't gotten me the results I would like.
The Disney trip was something I was planning to do myself with the kids. Dan said he wanted to go b/c he didn't want to miss the first time our D went to Disneyworld. We have been several times to Disneyland with our S b/c we lived in California. But D has never been to either Disney park. So Dan said he wanted to go. I have booked the room for the kids and I and I told him I was not paying for his room, he would have to book it and ask for it to be linked to our room (you can do that, it is on the website).
I do NOT expect sex or anything on that trip. Even if he doesn't get his own room it would be me and D in one bed, he and S in the other. I have no false ideas there.
But the first part you said is right, I go a few weeks and all is friendly then I get fed up....I need to be gone more when he is here, that's for sure. I am already screwed on that this week. We are decorating Easter eggs tonight and he told the kids he would come over and do eggs with us. So I have to be here unless I want to miss out on that, which I don't.
Then he has the kids on Wed for my night class. Then Thurs night I asked him to come stay with the kids as I am participating in a 24 hour prayer vigil at church. I have to be there from 2:00-3:30 am...
I hear what you are saying K and I know it is true. I just have to figure out what I am doing about it...
