My story

[pearlharbr]

Helping_Myself, I just quickly read through your thread and wanted to reply to your post on Making_IT's thread here.

I get your point about MC and needing both to be ready. You say that it changes the sitch and I guess you are right. My question is how do you/we deal with it?

Do we go yelling and screaming and say stop it? Do we wait it out? Do we turn our heads and run the other way?

I agree with you, just don't know how to move forward.

There are two trains of thought here on dealing with affairs. The official DB position is to wait it out, don't bring it up, make yourself the better option. Others, including myself, believe in being proactive by setting personal boundaries and consequences for violating them.

I just posted a recap of my story and thoughts on this topic here.

Hope this helps you choose which direction you want to go.