I go through my own predictable phases of being happy, optimistic, positive, and then when no big changes happen I get more negative/critical/pessimistic.
I do the same (Ali does too by the way ). To be honest if someone asked me what can you say about Bbj, what's your "impression" about the "strategy" she is using I would say: Bbj bites her tongue for a few days/weeks and then bursts by saying "come on Dan, why dont you want me, why dont you want our family, why cant you work with me, N is in trouble, are we a family or not etc etc ..." usually upset or teared up.
What should IMHO Bbj do, is be on her own, detach completely, do anything that has to be done that separates her life from Dans' instead of avoiding it out of fear, take care of herself and her kids and let him watch her and "desire her" as he would a new woman.
For example, IMO, the trip to Disneyland was not a wise move (you said 2 connecting rooms, I got that right?). You try to convince him to change his mind by "creating" memories and do things together as a family. I believe that fills his "tank" as a father and does nothing in relation to you. It will be awkward and no matter what happens, (sex for example), will be an "accident" (you know what I mean by that I hope). Changes that happen like that, change back pretty easily. Did you ask the DB coach about the trip? I am curious...
Anyway, we've known each other for quite some time and you know how I feel about you. IMHO, Dan needs to see a strong, confident, unpredictable, sexy woman that will knock his socks off. No whinning, no teary eyes, no insecurities, no clinginess, no self pity, no worries...
Dont hold on to the hours he spends with the kids as time that will bring you together, going to festivals etc etc. Give him the kids and disappear. Leave him with the kids at home and go to a movie. Go to a spa. Go shopping one day. Dont tell him where you are. If he asks, just say "shopping" and that's all. Come back with no bags, leave in the car. If he asks, tell him you left them in the trank. No lies. Dont offer information, dont look guilty. Be smiling, fun, sexy. Use your female weapons. Let him look. Just look. Make him want you. He loves you as a person, as the mother of his kids, he needs to see you again as a woman. And you need to shake things up a bit by changing your "dance". What are you waiting for? If you continue like this for much longer, the next girl Dan finds attractive could become trouble because she would be new and exciting and you would be his "family" that he spends Sundays with... You are separated you know.
You probably think I woke up at the wrong side of the bed. Well, I didnt. Forgive me if what I said upsets you but I've been thinking about you and it makes me mad that you ar ein this sitch for so long... love K
). To be honest if someone asked me what can you say about Bbj, what's your "impression" about the "strategy" she is using I would say: Bbj bites her tongue for a few days/weeks and then bursts by saying "come on Dan, why dont you want me, why dont you want our family, why cant you work with me, N is in trouble, are we a family or not etc etc ..." usually upset or teared up. 
