It sounds like a MLC to me too. Have you thought about getting Divorce Remedy (DR)? It has an awesome chapter about MLC that sounds like it was written about my H, but I'll be willing to bet everyone that reads it and has a spouse that's going through a MLC says that. My best advice for you right now is to not take anything she says too personally. I know that's really hard, I'm still learning how to do it. It's the best thing that you can do right now. She's not thinking clearly because of the trauma that's happened in her life. It sometimes makes people totally rethink their lives. When it's something as traumatic as the death of a parent sometimes they look at their lives and adapt a mentality of needing to live it up while they're still young. It seems as though this is what she's doing. You can't fix this for her. All you can do is take care of yourself and kids.
