I agree with Stuck. Your H has been having multiple A over the years! One with a coworker of yours? Time to detach and put all that effort and love on yourself!
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.