I do believe that a regular "report" of some kind to your husband is a reasonable thing to do at this point in your relationship.
Seems to me that it is a bit too easy for him right now to simply coast along in the same old way. He has no compelling reason to seek a change in his lifestyle. While I applaud your willingness to keep the door open and see where things go, your husbands course of action right now seems to suggest that he's just hoping you'll come to your senses and allow the old status quo to return.
Is there really any reason to NOT keep him apprised of the progress (or lack thereof) between the TWO OF YOU and YOUR relationship? His role cannot be ONLY father if he truly wants a marriage.
In your current state, which to me seems more even and reasoned, I would think you could find a non-confrontational way to simply tell him that another week has gone by where there has been NO time spent together, and therefore NO progress made in repairing your relationship. Pie chart or not, do not let this man continue day after day thinking that eventually you will give in and return to the old relationship.
His behavior towards you and your marriage is truly deplorable.
I give him no leeway for any conceivable reason anyone can think of. He has nearly lost the thing he SAYS he holds dear, yet continues to do NOTHING to show that he is interested in saving it.
Do not settle.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
