Hey, trapt! Come read my little latest story on my thread. Give me a male perspective on it. Although you are not a crazy MLC male, so probably will not tell me much. LOL
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
I'm sure you will do fine. Be totally confident. That's my plan anyway...
Originally Posted By: beginnersmind
Good luck tomorrow, T. Strong and steady. You will be fine.
Thank you Thank you
Not really where I wanna be but it is what it is. I have been really reasonable with everything and I haven't tried to do twist anything around or do anything dirty.
Well, I can't wait to hear what happens. I hope you can get it done with. Report back here tomorrow, same time, same place! lol I don't understand dragging it out. More time, money, and heart ache for everyone involved.
"Success is the sum of small efforts, repeated day in and day out." Robert Collier
"One's best success often comes after their greatest disappointments." Henry Ward Beecher
Not really where I wanna be but it is what it is. I have been really reasonable with everything and I haven't tried to do twist anything around or do anything dirty.
I'm just going to be fair but very very FIRM.
It will go well.
Your welcome for the pics sweetie and I'm glad you smiled, that was my intention. I've been told I have a knack at sending pics just at the right time.
I love it here is South Florida. I guess you could say I wouldn't have picked any other place to have been abandoned It toughened me up while still being able to enjoy the outside world.
You know Trapt, you will be fine tomorrow, actually you will be more than fine as all of this (cross your fingers) will be behind you and you can truly move forward with your head held high and your sanity intact.
Oh oh oh...make sure everything is in place before you sign anything or walk out the door. Leave no questions unanswered.
You do not want to be sitting here 3 years 4 months later in the exact same spot as when you heard the speach. It aint fun
Your being reasonable, your not asking for nor giving anything than what your both entitled to. Your not trying to be vindictive nor spiteful. You've been a wonderful man the entire time and a fabulous father.
Like our dear friend Jack said....let her choke on her choices.
It will go well.
((((hugs)))
and please try to get some sleep tonight, ok?
Jeanette
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Good luck trapt. My next date is 4/23. Hang in. Chin up. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
((((Trapt...)))) Good luck today sweetie. Keep us posted.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Thank you everyone. Without this place and you wonderful people, this would have been so much more difficult.
Well that is that, I am ok with what we have settle on. It's not exactly what I had planned, however it is reasonable.
We basically sat in a conference room and hashed things out. I am happy with the way that part of it went. There was one issue that I ended up letting go, at this point it just seemed insignificant and I wanted to remain as reasonable as possible. Everyone got along fine it was very civil.
There came a point where our lawyers left us alone for about 5 minutes to discuss personal property.
After it was discussed, I asked her if she really wanted this.( at this point there was nothing to lose) No response. I told her that I felt this is a mistake and I broke the rules and told her that I still loved her. Her chin started to quiver and tears welled up in her eyes. She simply said "stop your making me feel bad......it's just too late." I said I'm sorry, but I don't think it is. You said that six months ago. After that I could feel myself starting to get a little choked up so I gathered myself and said no more.
Once the agreement was made we stood before the judge. She had to answer a few yes or no questions. All of the first three she confidently said yes to. The last question asked was, Do you feel there is any chance of a reconciliation? She said no in a voice you could barely hear.
I watched her from time to time. At certain points she acted ok, and at others she was on the verge of tears.
I just have a strong sense that she feels that this is her only way out and she could not see how to get past all of this.
All in all I feel good with the way things went. Could I have been a little more difficult and really stuck to my guns? Yes on one issue, but in the end it just wasn't worth doing that.
Today I am happy with myself. Still way too fresh to think about what lies ahead so it's one day at a time. I now have to really start doing some work to get my finances straight.
I have faith that everything will work out, it always does.
