Laughing, The problem is this...your xh husband doesn't want you to have a future or dreams of you and your children living happily ever after. He screwed up royally, his family is all screwed up, therefore, he's not happy and he sure as h@ll doesn't want to see you and the kids happy either. He's a miserable individual and he's going to make sure that you and the kids pay for his misery as well.
Laughing, it doesn't matter how long you've been divorced. God forbid me for saying this, but you'll not be rid of him until he's six feet under. He's one of those types that will hunt you down just to make you miserable and doubt yourself until you go completely crazy. I hate to say this, but the man is showing NPD and I swear, he's doing exactly what the professionals have said about them...you can't run away from them fast enough, nor will you escape their wrath. Laughing, go back and do your homework...it's a NPD and you need to read up on that. When they turn on you, they make it their life's mission to destroy you. They see you as they enemy.
You must remember, it's not about money or the fact that you are not asking for anything...it's about him and what he perceives you are doing...you have turned the children against him, you've ruined his ego and who knows...your face may haunt his dreams. All he knows is that you are behind all of his misery. I know you think otherwise, but this is a very sick, sneaky, manipulative, controlling man. He's got someone in his pocket in your town. You've got to make a move and get the heck out of that town, somewhere new, where no one knows him or the situation. If you don't, I shutter to think what may happen to you.
Are there any support groups in your area for women who have been abused? You need to find out and seek counsel there. Your answers are there, Laughing. You need help and the only way to get it is to seek it in the most unlikely place right now...a woman's shelter. They've seen it all and maybe help you find a way out from under his controlling ways. Do not let pride keep you from contacting them. Pick that phone up and call them.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
