N, It's okay to have those pity parties, but don't linger too long. Anniversaries, the changing of the seasons, etc., bring out all of those memories. It's a very normal process.
Your nasty weather hit us for just a short period of time this evening. No snow, but small pieces of hail and heavy rains hit the areas for a little while. The temps have dropped just a bit too. Guess spring just isn't ready to stick around just yet.
N, it's going to be okay. Sometimes you are just too hard on yourself. Give yourself time to heal and know that the memories are part of the healing process just like tears.
Hugs!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.