N, It's okay to have those pity parties, but don't linger too long. Anniversaries, the changing of the seasons, etc., bring out all of those memories. It's a very normal process.
Your nasty weather hit us for just a short period of time this evening. No snow, but small pieces of hail and heavy rains hit the areas for a little while. The temps have dropped just a bit too. Guess spring just isn't ready to stick around just yet.
N, it's going to be okay. Sometimes you are just too hard on yourself. Give yourself time to heal and know that the memories are part of the healing process just like tears.
Hugs!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Well, it was pretty cold here last night & is supposed to be even colder tonight. We had a few snow flurries this morning but east of us they had about 3 to 5 inches. It's supposed to warm up tomorrow some & I hope it's the last of the cold weather for a while.
I have a little problem. I still have not received my alimony check for April. I'm supposed to get it by the 5th, so I'm trying to wait a few days to see if I will get it soon. I have been getting it on time every month, last month they were 1 day late. I have a strong feeling that OW is just wanting me to email something. If I do, I'm going to be very nice about it but knowing her she will just change things around & maybe re-do my email & make it look to my xh like I'm the bad guy. I just don't trust her & she has control of the email. Another thing, I have a feeling that something is not right, why would all this time I get my checks & now all of a sudden they stop. Like I said I'm trying to wait it out a little longer but I do need the check & I really don't want to contact my lawyer about it but I really don't want to email them about it either. I will email them before my lawyer tho.
Any suggestions?
I'm still a little down, no word from the job but I'm trying not to dwell on it too much. I think I'm going to call them tomorrow & check on it.
You could be right, they could have gotten tied up with packing but I am not supposed to even know they are out of the country or they are moving back. Since I got those emails earlier in the year I just assume they wouldn't just forget.
If you suspect his wife has a hand in this and sees your emails (not sure how she could alter them but I am not a pc buff) why not have it changed to a standing order or direct debit not sure what you call them. That way it would come straight out of your x husbands bank straight to yours on a given day each month that way you are free of the worry as to whether or not it turns up. Then you have no need of the possibiity of her having anything to do with you and your x's arrangements.
I thought this kind of arangement was the norm in a Divorce case. I take it that it was court ordered. Sorry about the job, hope you hear soon, have you anything else in the pipeline. Try and habe a good Easter,are your parents coming? Take care.
My x was just sending a hand written check before he moved out of the US. After he moved he was doing the on-line banking. He will enter each month, actually I think OW does it b/c my X never took care of paying bills, anyway they will enter the date they want the payment made & that is the date that I get the check from the bank in the mail. It is not court ordered to do a bank draft or direct deposit so, I would have to try to get him to do it & I doubt he would. I wish it had been set up at the time of the divorce but it wasn't & I had too many other things going on to think about it at the time.
I do have a couple of other things on the job front. I sent my resume in to another company yesterday so we'll see. I just keep praying something will come up soon.
I'm going to go to my parents house for Easter, thank you for asking, in fact I'm going to try to go tomorrow night. I was going to wait until Friday but it's supposed to rain & I really don't want to drive in the rain if I don't have to.
I hope you have a wonderful Easter also. I'm going to try to put as much of this stuff out of my mind as I can.
Yeah! I got my alimony check today. It has never been late & I really think this woman is trying to get me to email them something. I haven't been responding to her emails so I think that is what she is up to. I may be wrong but this is the type person I believe she is. Who else would send emails in the past like she has done & also thank me for my H.
Anyway, I got it so I'm thankful for that & will not worry about it anymore.
Great you got the cheque, now you can go to your parents with one less thing on your mind. In fact leave all those things behind. You can worry about them when you get back. Enjoy.
You are so right, one less thing to worry about. I also just sent an email to the people I interviewed with last week. So, maybe I will hear something from them soon. Good or bad, at least I would know. But, I still have to find a job!!! So, keep praying.
