Hi TH, My situation is that I make a lot more money than my H. He has a financial planning business and ahome office. I haven't gone the legal route as I'm in better financial shape than H. Will give H big credit in that since our accounts are joint he has tried to live on own frm his business and not spend our joint money(the money I earn). He also does our investments as that is his expertise and does look out for us and the kids. So he is atypical from many MLCers regarding money.
Lastly, don't give H a reason to get angry and see you as the enemy. Be consistent in words and actions, be detached as much as you can be(and always try to improve!). If money is a big issue, then a lawyer/mediator might be best to have those conversations with H. Don't get hooked into arguments. Take a break, excuse yourself to go to the bathroom-just leave if a hook comes your way.
I think for you going the route you are to secure money to live on might be very wise. Don't count on spousal support(it sounds like it takes some time-others know much more than I on this matter). Still looking for work on your own even though you may not make what H/OW make(don't compare), is definitely going to help you feel more independent and help with your self-esteem/confidence.
M44 H46 T21 Married 16y D14 D12 Bomb 12/08(EA), (PA/Separation)1/09 to 5/09 Home/MC 5/09 to 12/09 Leaves 12/09 Files for Divorce Divorce final 6/30/10.
