HELP! Is ML to try to reconnect a mistake?

[trampledheart]

hi kjenson,

I'm sorry that you are going through this too. I see that your H broke off from OW but was pulled back into A...that's got to be so disappointing.

Are you detaching and also taking legal steps? I was on the path to getting a legal separation so that I could get a consistent amount in spousal support, and secure myself from having H hide assets or take equity out of our home. I thought that maybe if I know exactly what I have and can count on, that I can begin my future from there. I also thought that would help me concentrate on other things once I didn't have to worry so much about whether he was trying to leave me with nothing. Is that a start in detaching?

At the heights of our arguments (in the beginning) he's said I was his enemy and he wouldn't give me any more that the courts required him to give... Now, I think he's starting to feel sorry for me but since any argument we have about money turns hims into a demon, I can't trust him to be generous, let alone fair.