Separated but keeping the Faith

[jaguilar]

Afternoon all!

Today was a blah day. The wife was gone all week, I made no attempt to contact her at all. Her mom was in town to watch the kids. She seemed a bit offish at first but then warmed up as the week went on. She made me home made tortillas, she called me mijo (term of endearment) and son. That made me feel good. I took her to church on Sunday and it was nice. Then the wife showed up at church, as we were receiving communion. Then she took my D10 to the bathroom and started telling me that I needed to buy lice shampoo and why did the kids look like they were homeless. All in a matter of 15 minutes. Hello, Welcome Back! The kids really missed you!

I told her not to start and then decided to take the kids and go out to Target. We left and she was texting me, telling me what to do. Of course this is from a woman who claims she has no love for me but always to wants to start a fight with me. I bought the kids some stuff for Easter weekend and headed to the house. I was really frustrated and took it out on my D10. I know I shouldn't have but I am getting really tired of this whole thing and the way it's playing out.

Later that night we went back to Target and got some things and bought ice cream and Grease. The kids think that movie is the bomb.

Woke up this AM took the kids to school and they started fighting over a pair of jeans. I had to get after them again. On Saturday, they (the 2 girls) were going out in the school parking lots. WTF! Apparently, the W told them that she used to fight with her sister all the time. I told them that this not acceptable, especially to fight with your sister. I mentionend to them that I was really fed up with their behavior and how draining it has become. It seems my words have no affect on them. I told them that maybe they were better off with their mom. They both started crying and said that they wanted to be with me. I told them that you guys need to be abel to talk to your mom too. They both said they can't, they are too scared. I told them that she is your mother, you can't be scared.

Just before the kids went to bed, the D10 tells me that W showed MIL some pics that she took of my laptop. Apparently, when she was over to wash clothes, D10 had my laptop, went to the bathroom and when she came back W was taking pics of stuff that was on there. Afterwards, I found some pics of various women on my laptop and a letter. I don't remember the letter or the pics. I did have some of W that we both took last year, happier times (sighing), I deleted that I could find. I had emailed my W and told her that I was aware of what she did on my laptop and that I did not appreciate it.

Then the power was turned off! What next, turns out, I forgot to switch the mailing address when I had my apartment. The disconnects were going back to the apt and not my house.

I did call a therapist today to get the kids counseling. She said she can do it but since the W and I do not live in the same house, I have to get written permission from her attorney or her. Again, I told the C that she wants to have the kids "prepared for divorce", they said that they will meet with me, then my W and progress with the kids.

The W just called, after being a B!TCH to me, she has the nerve to ask if she can come by and wash clothes at the house. I told her no. She said what, I said no, you can't go over. She said ok, beofre she could finish I hung up. It felt good to say no to her.

Just Friday, she was telling me to make all these doctor appts. fort the kids. I mean we don't talk but she is treating me like her errand boy. I'm tired of being tired.

What a day!