How are things going JD? We haven't heard from you. Whats up with the D process? Any progress from your W?
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
JD asked me to post the following...he's have computer trouble of sorts!!
"I have completed my divorce paperwork, and am sending it in Friday, 3/26/2009. I've cut off almost all communication with W, and am riding the Dark Train. I appreciate the thoughts, and checking in on me! If I can remember my login, I'll update some more. Otherwise, I'll make a new login!"
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
Robx - your post WAS inspiring. If I hadn't given everything in me for almost 3 years, it would probably inspire me.
But, at some point, there is a balance between reality and hope. I'm the most optimistic person you'll ever meet - glass COMPLETELY full kind of guy. But, I'm dragging my kids through an affair now.
They know I love W, W knows I love her - they know what I've done, and who I've become. If W is going to reject that, then I don't need to be with her, and my kids need to know the boundaries as well.
Spiritually, I have given God COMPLETE permission over my life. So, I'm going to move forward in a reasonable, normal manner, and if God stops me at any point, I will slam the brakes like nobody's business!
Thanks so much everyone for checking on me!
JD - I am new to this forum, but feel like I know your situation all to well. I agree that Robx has a great post and like you am trying to find the balance between reality and hope... I think you said that very well. As for your kids (and mine) someone recently told me that "your kids will NEVER forget how you treated them though this hard time" "They see your efforts and know YOU did all you could to protect them".
You and your story give me hope that regardless of my own outcome I will be a better person and the BEST father to my children. JD - Thank you for your story and the strength to share. God Speed! And keep moving forward.
Me - 35 W - 32 (EA with OM) M - 13 1/2 D - 11 S - 9 ILYBNILWY - January 2009 Status - Limbo
Thanks, pleasehelp, I'm so happy with who I am. I know beyond the shadow of a doubt that the only reason my family is still separated is floating in W's head!
Thanks, pleasehelp, I'm so happy with who I am. I know beyond the shadow of a doubt that the only reason my family is still separated is floating in W's head!
Thats it???!!!! J/K!!
How have things been?
Me: 46 FWS: 36 Married and Divorced 4/07, Pregnant 7/07,False R 7/07 Baby Girl born 3/08 Kicked him out because OW: 7/08 5/10 He realized what he had and lost. Moved home! REMARRIED 3/14/11!!
