Hi kids.. Julia, Neaj, I'd love to go for a bike ride with him! Its not going to happen though.. in his mind he is 'with Helen', eventhough he in actual fact misses me terribly every day, as he says (and I believe him, becauase he cried his eyes out when he was telling me!) and of course he has told G that too.
Rob.. well plan B may be all I have, Cyrena is right, xbf's snake is no doubt curled up depressed!
Cyrena.. Hi there Fairy Godmother! Yet again, such an interesting post. You reminded me of something that Jody, the DB coach said about this things just happen to him and he doesnt know why he left.. she said "thats not good, he wont be able to come back until he's figured that out". And yes, I do feel more detached..I used to get very upset about his declarations of suicide.. now, I kind of brushed over it. I can see what you mean, he is in victim mode, NOT making decisions and taking charge of his emotions. I was heartened that he finally said.. I need to man up, grow some b*lls and make a decision..even if he hasnt done it yet!
God I miss him. I dont blame Helen for being 'really into him' as BMF W - J described. I do feel sorry for her too, as J said, she's chasing something that just isnt going to happen, he's not into her, its obvious.
But I take yuor point Cyrena that in trying to end it, that could force her hand to say things that may make him reconsider leaving her... but we've been here before. He finished with a gf he was with for 2 1/2 years and living with, because he didnt love her but couldnt stop thinking of me. So he's done it before! From the time he said it wasnt right and he couldnt stop thinking about me (in the October) it took him to the following May to end it. We got together 12 hours later. Sounds bad, but it actually wasnt planned, nor expected.. my live in BF left me the same day for someone else, wierdly, but its just how things worked out.
So just realised that today.. he's already left a long term(ish) gf to be with me and he is now faced with the same decision. No wonder he says "I'm sick of upsetting people".
