hi guys i will try and keep this as short as i can but alot needs to be said, im 35 wife 35, 2 kids boy 15 girl 10, the boy is from a previous relationship my wife had before me. dated for 3 years married 10. we had a solid marriage both worked hard i run my own carpentry buisness my wife works with kids who has problems, ie drugs, abuse, etc etc. we were very happy had a lovely home holidays etc etc, we both shared all the chores around the house, my wife mainly worked nights, so i would finish work collect the kids do the housework and cook dinner, then i pick my wife up from work at 21.30 4 nights a week, we were soul mates shared everything, we was best friends, always complimented each other and respected each other, she would say i love my life but most of all i love you and i would echo that, dont get me wrong we had our fights but always sorted them out. we shared nights out, we also had nights out alone, people would comment on our marriage and say its perfect, all the inlaws got on really well too. then 18 months ago her dad died it hit both familes hard, my wife took care of him while he was ill, i run the fort. i was grieving myself but i had to take care of my wife, kids and buisness. so it was difficult for me to, he passed away and my wife was devastated like we all were, i stood tall for her and helped her through, she slipped into depression and was on medication for it, she also became addicted to pain killers, but with the help of us all and the doctors we managed to get her of them, months went by and things improved and we started to live again, but the memories was still there, 3 months ago she decided she hated her job, so we discussed it and agreed if she hated it that much she should quit, so she gave her notice then called me to say she had done it, then the day after she called and said im staying, then the day after she called and said no im quitting so she did, but she had to work 3 months notice, her notice has just expired, but 4 weeks ago everything was normal it was a sunday and we was fine went to bed and held each other she said i love you so much, i woke for work next day and woke the kids made coffee and woke my wife, we said our goodbyes and hugs and kissess and off i went, all through the day we text each other, some of my wifes text was sexual and what she was planning for tonight and i replied the same, we had a wonderful sex life, quality not quantity, maybe once or twice a week. so on the monday eveningi arrived home and started dinner my wife came and we ate and chatted, then from knowhere she said i need some space.... i was dumbfounded, we spoke util the small hours and i got no response only i need space, its not you its me, im sorry and i love you, space, space. she left and went to her mothers, i bombarded her with calls and text, and called by, for 2 days solid. then she sent a nasty text saying its over move on, i was crushed, didnt eat or sleep for a week, it was so sudden, no signs at all, we didnt see each other for 2 weeks, she asked for a ride to work and she was all normall as if nothing as happened, she is talking about this new place she will be renting and stuff, she has said she deeply cares for me, she said she cant wait to get back to normal just her and the kids, she has asked me to do all the work on her house and stuff, and needs all new furniture, she rekindled a friendship with a woman who is 38 and single they party all weekend untill the small hours, her taste in music changed a little and she stater to have botox a few months before she left, its really hard for me at the moment trying to deal with this and to run a house and a buisness and look after the kids on week nights and weekends while she is out partying, she neglects the kids and they are feeling it, this is not the same person anymore, we are friends and we text and talk she has even cooked dinner for me, i never bring up our marriage and i always try and shown im ok with the situation but im hurting so so much, i just dont know were to turn, i feel alone and scared
