WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 6

[MrBond]

She has to start off in victim mode. Let her get it out of her system. After awhile she's going to realize that she can't play the victim forever.

The cycle I'm referring to is the fact that she keeps blaming you for her past hurt, then you say you've changed and then she says she can't trust your changes, and then she says she has to leave to sort our her feelings and then you say you don't believe in D, etc.

It's been going like that for about a month now.

You broke one cycle when you made the changes. Now break this next cycle by letting go and letting her be her. Once she sees you're no longer part of the cycle, she's going to stop and wonder, what's going on?

"All the other times, she only talks when the counselor asks a specific question. Problem is I feel like I answer how I think things are going and then she responds with a very short answer."

Did she ever give you a firm answer as to why she's going? It still sounded like she's going just for you, although I suspect a small part of her wants to go to hear suggestions on your R to see how it applies to herself. That's why I think the C needs to concentrate on her. Divert as much stuff as possible to her and about her.