Also, a little more background info here. When I met my W she was in AA and had been in rehab for alcohol and drug abuse 6 months earlier. Once she started culinary school she fell back into the drinking thing. Staying out late, getting hammered...which i voiced my disapproval of but it fell on deaf ears. She also doesn't like therapists because growing up whenever she acted out her parents sent her to a therapist instead of dealing with her actions themselves. She has been told she may be bipolar by therapists before but doesn't trust them so she feels like they are just out to get a paycheck and not help her. She also refuses to believe that anything she is doing now is going to adversely affect our D3 and thinks she will be fine because she is young and if both parents love her nothing bad will come of this...even though everything she hears and reads says otherwise. It's like she is in complete denial about the ramifications of any of her actions. Also, the OM was her boss when she was externing at the restaurant and now because of their relationship she can never work there since the owner won't let couples work in the kitchen together and she knows if they end it he won't let it happen since he runs the kitchen. Nice huh?
