I wish I could be a fly on the wall today. He came out to visit and meet her family. I'm not sure what's going on with him and his wife. I was chatting with my sister-in law who runs the computer shop where W rents the apartment above. I mentioned I was bringing a computer over to get cleaned up, nothing out of the ordinary.
When I met W to pick up the kids she seemed scared, and then insisted I not bring the computer over until next week. "I have stuff to do and it's too close to my personal living space". Anyway I knew what was up, so at 05:00 the neighbor came over to watch the kids while I grabbed my camera and went for a drive. There's his truck parked right next to hers, so I took a picture and left. I should have known. The thing that pisses me off is it's a 1 bedroom appt, the kids sleep in the bed on her week and she sleeps on the couch. Well tonight there's obviously more than sleep going on in her bed. That's where my kids sleep!
Me: 36 years old 1st marriage Wife: 40 years old second marriage S: 12 D: 6 Status: Separated Nov 2/08, Served papers Feb 18/09. PA confirmed 03/09 Custody: 1 week on, 1 week off, wife wants sole.
Yes, I think that's a very good idea. She still swears they're just friends believe it or not.
Me: 36 years old 1st marriage Wife: 40 years old second marriage S: 12 D: 6 Status: Separated Nov 2/08, Served papers Feb 18/09. PA confirmed 03/09 Custody: 1 week on, 1 week off, wife wants sole.
I think that puppy is right, that's not an outrageous boundary for you to set at all. But I also wouldn't be surprised if she balks at it. She should understand your concern, but then again, there are lots of things that she should (and shouldn't!) be doing!
Dont let her make you feel bad if you do choose to set this boundary. She is being disrespectful. But I would guess that through all of the fog in her head she wont be able to see it that way.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
She still swears they're just friends believe it or not.
Hoo, boy, that's what I keep hearing too -- even after I told her I hired a PI who got the dirt on her.
I wonder: Is the fog typically that thick with these WAS's?
Getting the same story here. Despite her ditching her car in a parking lot, spending the night next door, and being filmed kissing. "Just a friend kiss." Yeah... says the W who wasn't kissing me during sex for the past 6 months.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
So the Om was at her apartment all weekend, no big deal. not sure what her family thinks of him...don't really care. But this morning I get an email demanding I list the house. I'm guessing money is getting tight. I plan on keeping the house. the kids ahve grown up here, their best friends are down the street. Where else can I get a 5 bdrm house for under $800/month?
Me: 36 years old 1st marriage Wife: 40 years old second marriage S: 12 D: 6 Status: Separated Nov 2/08, Served papers Feb 18/09. PA confirmed 03/09 Custody: 1 week on, 1 week off, wife wants sole.
dont list the house...when we were close to divorce last year, he tried to convince me to list the house and get everything over with right away. i was so used to listening to him i almost did it. i was advised not to list it, u use it as your bargaining tool.
and here i am, not divorced and still in the house.
me: 31 H:29 Son:5 m:8 years in november t:10 years first bomb: 10/06 moved home: 3/08 out again 5/08 ow bomb: 4/08, since summer 06 d filed:6/08, on hold 6/08 moved home:3/09 out again 5/09
