LBS need help and support #2

[antlers]

I have stopped pursuing, and all that has done is eliminate just about all communication with W.

I'm so confused - I don't know whether I'm acting as-if, faking it till I make it, standing for my marriage, or living in denial. I am praying a lot, and trying to turn it over to God, but don't know if I truly have. I don't know much anything right now, except that I'm just taking it one day at a time.

We need to operate from a standpoint of what we need to 'do', instead of from a standpoint of what we 'need'. It doesn't take effort so much, as it does discipline. I still choose to honor my committment to our marriage and preserve our family, but it's pretty much out of my hands right now. It's hard to let things happen instead of us trying to force destiny and make it happen. I think you're standing for your marriage, as I am. Let's continue to keep turning it over to God, and if we truly haven't...then let's ask Him to help us do it. But, we still have to use our heads instead of our hearts and make good decisions and not do the wrong things for our relationships. These boards are a comfort and a blessing, as are the people who can provide such good advice for us.