WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 6

[confusedinpa]

I don't think it would hurt for her to think that what she is doing could result in her losing you, especially if it is true.

Spellfire,

Thanks for checking in on me - it has been a very tough going of late. Hope your situation is progressing better than mine. I checked in our thread a few times, but I didn't post since, as you can read, I don't have anything good to offer with advice.

Anyway, I had thought about bringing this one up, but wasn't sure how to do it without making it sound like a threat.

One of my consistent messages, to the point she raised it as something I repeated very often, was that I believe in the marriage and believe that it can work.

How about something like this:

Right now, I see how we are both hurting. The hurt that we feel when being rejected by the one that we love builds resentment over time. I know that a loving marriage relationship needs to have both people free from resentment and hurt. While I may not agree with the separation, I do understand her need to have the space and freedom to work out issues.

Too subtle? Any thoughts?