New here and seeking advice

[PortlandDad]

If you are happy with the situation the way it is currently working, then it is ok not to want to rock the boat. Be careful, though. I have discovered, at least in my sitch, that appeasement doesn't work long-term. The longer that my W walked all over me, the more she felt that she could get away with.

I ended up giving her a very large sum of money that she used to fund her WA life. When I finally wised up and cut her off, she screamed, pitched a fit, demanded that we get a divorce, etc. etc. but it was the right thing to do. Every time I drew a line and said "This far and no further", she complained and moaned about it, but she respected it.

We are still separated, but she is now living in her world that has boundaries and limits and she knows that I am not a doormat for her to wipe her feet on.

PS. I absolutely love the weather lately! Nicest weekend this year by far. I hope it lasts!