Good advice and goes along with what i've been thinking. I definitely think she is cake eating and I'm going to talk to my counselor about that this week and my plans to end that. As for the question of the OM, yes he is currently married but he is divorcing his wife of like 12 yrs. He also has two kids which he conveniently gets W to babysit when he needs to do things. Oh, I'm sure that there was at least an EA with OM before the bomb dropped. I'm sure that is part of the not wanting to try to work on our marriage part. Right now she has it good. She can bounce back and forth as she sees fit but that is going to change very shortly. We can be friends but you're right, I'm not her gay guy friend to talk about crap with the BF with. And I'm definitely not the guy to finance that relationship.
Thanks for validating what I've been thinking. So good to know that I'm not completely off base here. Just need to figure out how to define these boundaries without coming off like an ultimatum as that is really not what I'm going for here.
