LBS need help and support #2

[faithisbelieving]

By your last post, I can tell you that you are on the road to making it thru...dare I even say healing.

The word babysteps should NOT be applied to the moments of clarity that our WAS's show us in their world of hurt and confusion. The word is more appropriately applied to US...the LBS'ers...as we begin to get clarity on our situation. In fits and starts, we finally begin to see that we have no control over our S's.

We see that there is no cologne...no new set of duds from Armani-Exchange...no weight loss program ...or pair of clippers that crop us 'neath our boxers....that is going to make our wives come running back to us.

No control.

Accepting this allows us to let go.

Song..you MUST realize now that this is HER...NOT YOU. These are HER issues. This is not a FAILURE...it is a lesson in life. We all assume that our lives are going to be a 'happy-ever-after-one'.

NOPE.

We have car accidents...death....financial issues...and...divorce.

We must survive...and live ..to enjoy life again.

Sometimes, acting 'as if'...as you describe...pays out some line as we let the big fish 'separation/WAS' run it's course until tired. By then, we get our strength back to reel OURSELVES back in.

Use this time...for YOU. Song..time to start your renaissance.

FIB