It was amazing to me that she noticed little things as well as the major overhauls. They are looking and taking notice. Do not be there to shove the changes in her face, and exclaim look how great I am, you do not have to, nor do you want that mindset.
As far as the living arrangements, that is up to you, but if I did not want to leave my own house I would not. I had my part in why my wife felt as though she needed to quit on me and the kids, but I'll be damned if I was going to help her quit the team.
As far as the May 1 deadline, I would not make one, if you see progress with her without the confrontation, then do not do it, if you see it backsliding or not going forward then I would do it now.
Thinking about you up there, remember that your change is for your part of the failed relationship, not hers, because you is all you can change.
