Been married 3 1/2 years and have a 3 yr old D. The first couple of years of marriage were good but then W started culinary school and with her schedule and mine plus our daughter we never had any us time. Wife graduated in Dec. and the bomb dropped in Jan. I got the whole ILYBNILWY speach. Went to a couple of MC sessions but she just closed down every time and finally said that yes, if she were willing to try things could be different but it was going to be too hard and she didn't want to do it. I have continued going to counseling with the same counselor and she has been going to her own counselor. I read DR on the advice of my counselor and started GAL, DBing, stopped pursuing, taking care of myself. She started a relationship with OM in Feb. (I'm sure it was an EA earlier) with a chef from the restaurant she externed at the last 3 months of school. Of course she says the typical stuff...I love him, he gets me, etc.. Thing is, she will come back and complain to me about how she isn't getting anything out of the relationship with him and stuff. I've been trying to be a friend and be there for her but now I'm starting to feel like she is cake eating. She is with him for all the physical stuff but comes to me for the emotional stuff. One other thing is that we are still physically living in the same house but half of the week she stays at "friends" houses and the other half I do. She is planning on getting her own place around the 1st of May.
My thoughts right now is that by being there when she needs me or is bored i'm enabling this relationship of hers while I sit in endless limbo. I'm thinking of going dim. Only be there for talk about our D3. Would this be a good thing to do?
Also, she used to bring up divorce talk a lot but now not so much. Although she has said that as far as she is concerned we aren't married anymore. A lot of other stuff seems to be typical for WAW. I can't ask anything about where she's been or what she is doing but she has to know what I'm up to all the time. I get questioned if I'm seeing someone a lot. Etc....
So, any advice for this sitch would be greatly appreciated.
