First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

Nice discussion guys.

To answer your question Pup, yes, I've made it very clear that NC is the single most important thing there is.

I think in W's mind that she thinks if we're meant to be together she doesn't think talking to OM as "friends" would hurt anything. I truly don't think she is (or was) in contact with him every day. I think it was probably more of a once in a while "how's it going?" kind of contact, most probably when WE start connecting again, i.e. it scares her and she's drawn to contact him to validate whether what she's feeling with me is real or is it just because she's not in contact with him. I don't think that's conscious thought on her part, but I think it's whats going on in her head.

I think WDID is probably correct in that after our talk a couple weeks ago, she saw the A for what it was and decided to go NC for good and now she's dealing with the WD. That glass is the big indicator to me.

Now there's another scenario that pops in my head. S16 and I going out of town this weekend gives her an opportunity to be free to see him without me having any idea that she is. And she contacted him (or has been in contact with him) and said she wanted to get together this weekend and he blew her off. That almost seems more the likely scenario to me than the other, but maybe that's just my hyper sensitivity to everything coming out.

Whatever is going on I think is good. Pup, I know you've said it many times, Good = bad and bad = good. Whichever of the situations it is, bad = good.

That's almost the hardest part of piecing your marriage back together. How do you know when good = good?