Ali, I think it is wrong for you to see xxb/f. whlst you are still inlove with your x b/f and thinking you will reconcile when he grows some b***. You said you love(d) xx he was your soulmate and yet you are contemplating almost using him as a pawn in the hope of getting x back. Thats not love thats lust lets be honest.Which is fine but let him know this first. He might need the same and then no harm is done. You must have made every excuse in the book for why you can't contact the x, we know 'cos we have used them all at some time or other I guess-well some of them. He is so weak and depressed maybe it is just the booze talking and he doesn't want to hurt you, maybe he doesn't want to hurt H. It could go either way but at least you would know, what about all this clarity you needed / wanted a while back. You are back to sqare one in as much as your life is now revolving around his, what happened to your "I finally detached! " and getting a life. It really is your choice how long you sit by waiting for x to want to be with you again and ditch Helen, but I think getting involved with the xx isn't going to help or be fair to either xx or you. JMO as ever.
