Some new stuff to report. My wife did take the kids to MI for the long weekend, with the plan to return on Tuesday. They have not called once, which is odd, since the kids always want to talk to me before bed if we aren't together. So I know she is going dark to send a message. I have not called or anything to give space. I found out yesterday that her grandfather, who has been at deaths door for several days passed Monday morning. She did not call, but I do know her mother spoke to her so she knows. She had wanted to spend as much time with the family as possible and did spend Thurs and Fri at the hospital. The arrangements are for Tues and Wed so I don't know if they will come back tonight (my guess) or tomorrow morning. We will have to be interacting with a lot of extended family over the next 48 hours so that will be tough. As if on cue, I said last week that my wife was still wearing her rings, the day after I said it, they disappeared, last Tuesday...If I wear mine, does that indicate in her mind that I am in denial (something she has said, although we have never spoken of the ring thing), or does it send a message that I am still faithful. If I take it off, she will think I am buying into the "program", but it may make it more "over" in her eyes. I know that I am overthinking things, but it is a real decision I face. I guess the bigger question is in DBing by "moving on" does this cement her resolve or shock her into the reality of the situation?
My posts have been quite for a while and while I know there are many people to help, I have been pretty lonely the last few days. If anyone wants to respond, the feedback is always welcome...nobody is ever intruding with their responses.
