how do I (a) actively listen, "hear," and validate while simultaneously (b) not be paying attention / focusing on / etc.?
You must pay attention. You must discern between opportunities and bait.
Quote:
"this decision is because of you,"
You just mind read for your W. You might take a logical guess at what she might say but at least give her the opportunity to say she thinks or feels. Here's your response if she were to say that, "Sorry, I am not responsible for your decisions." Goes back to Sara's point, she thinks you pulled the trigger. So clear that up. You only control how you respond, stop thinking and feeling for your W.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
