Puppy, I see what you are saying. Ideally, yes, she should communicate with Hope. But, communication is not their strong suit yet. From the personality HOpe has portrayed of his wife, I see her as the type to need to work this through herself. She kept the back door open, and now shutting it requires her to do those things she has made HOpe believe she was doing all along. She will believe she doesn't need to say a thing. She thinks HOpe is thinking she has been doing this already.
Oh, I fully understand that this is what SHE is thinking, and doing. I'm questioning whether real healing can take place without her "coming clean" so to speak, and then re-building on top of some new foundation of honesty, transparency and trust.
Can it just be done incrementally this way, and with "don't-ask/don't-tell"??
