When I ended it all COMPLETELY, there was a HUGE hole. OM had filled it up, and my H and I hadn't worked through repair work yet. So, yes, try to fill the hole with some love and care. Gauge her reaction. If she seems like you are bugging her, then just stop.
Puppy, I see what you are saying. Ideally, yes, she should communicate with Hope. But, communication is not their strong suit yet. From the personality HOpe has portrayed of his wife, I see her as the type to need to work this through herself. She kept the back door open, and now shutting it requires her to do those things she has made HOpe believe she was doing all along. She will believe she doesn't need to say a thing. She thinks HOpe is thinking she has been doing this already. Now she is just DOING it.
Continue to talk to her,Hope. COntinue to call her on things. Asking her if she is ok was good. When you notice that, say something like you did. If you keep noticing her, she will eventually open up. She wants to know that you DO really KNOW her. There was a time when she thought you didn't even know who she was.
