{{{{LE}}}} that is absolutely RIGHT that THEY will remember all the good times and how you are THERE for them..they will forget and won't keep count if that's 7 days a week or 3..your quality time will make up for the lack of quantity time my friend!!
And hey..YOU deserve to be happy too
Tawnya
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Cat--thanks for the post! Arthur--It is a two way street, I always wonder if I am doing as well as you are! Tawnya & Bg--Catch you in the other world
It guess it really doesn't bother me that she is travelling this path. She is happy and who am I to deny her that. I am frustrated--as I have been all along--with how she puts her needs ahead of the kids. As my friend said, just be the Dad who puts their needs ahead of yours and as they grow up they will know who was in it for them and who was in it for themself. Still hard when D cries "Daddy I missss youuu" over the phone in tears. W said on Monday, "Oh she is just being a drama queen." That is how hard W has become. So after last night I was a bit mean and just texted XW "Were those real tears or just her being a Drama Queen?"
Hey LE, just catching up.
I do similar slightly sarcastic comments myself sometime, think it's a frustration thing as you think..F me, can't you see the reality ??? I would say my W is similar and is so in it for herself. She is not a bad mum, don't get me wrong, but she doesn't think before she acts or speaks or who she speaks to and how any of this affects the boys. It's all about them. Not a lot we can do, just remember to be there for the kids always as there may come a point that the ex's crash and we need to be there to pick up those kids in a hurry.
Having some mixed feelings today and haven't posted in awhile. An old friend has moved back to town so I have spent the last couple of weekends, going out on the weekends and seeing other old friends. Came down with a flu bug and have been on the sidelines today and that might explain the empty feelings. S called me and we chatted and I asked about D. I could hear XW raising her voice in the background saying "TALK TO DADDY!" And D relpying, "It's not my night." She reluctantly got on the phone and she began crying almost immediately. The phone call ended with "I love you Daddy!" about four times. It hurts and I am also angry, XW I am sure is oblivious, as long as she is happy. Everyone says it gets better, but days like today set me back weeks. I miss the day in day out interaction with our children. I wonder what is going on in D's head? I am sure she feels divided loyalty between me, her mother and OM.
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A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
Sounds horible dude, but know we all go through this. As said time and time again, you just gotta roll with it and do the best you can with the cards you've been dealt.
You feeling better again now buddy as it's a few days later ?
Awesome sir, sounds good. Got my 2 all day tomorrow and can't wait for that. Busy day planned with their cousins too so they will have a great time. Do love it when things are planned and try to do that all the time now as S6 can get a bit bored easily and then just wants to watch TV !!!! S2 is the opposite and if we all sit down he dissapears and recks the joint...lol
I have been away for a few weeks, trying to heal on my own as much as possible and get stronger. Friday, I found out from a friend that XW is pregnant! So completely irresponsible, but par for the course. I don't know what to feel. Happy, sad, hurt.... I had to hear it from a friend and not her. I guess that part of it really sucks. However, I am in a stronger place.
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
