Steady - I have read your posts and actually took notes. I believe you and I have a lot in common. I have taken several tips from your post, but still have a ways to go. I am GAL'ing as best I can. I cry a lot, but she does not see that, I hide it well.
Your post about "what detachement means to you" and the 3 things helps.
My problem is overthinking and worrying about the future. I want this to work; I really do, but she has changed and there is nothing I can do.
I feel like detaching is giving up and that is where I need to keep reading from the good people here. We spent the weekend painting and changing one of the bathrooms in the house. We had a good time, but there is no emotional conection. I have to believe there is no hope and detach, but it is hard. I always come back to "what if I can fix this?". If I detach "wrong" does it mess up my chance.
Clearly I have a ways to go on detaching. I read about your struggles with custody, child support, and such... I have the same fear. I do not want this, but I am going to pay a hefty price for something I am trying to fix. It just all out sucks. I love my children and it kills me knowing I will lose half of their lives and they will struggle. All the same I know I can make my time with them precious. I love them dearly.
More to come....
Me - 35 W - 32 (EA with OM) M - 13 1/2 D - 11 S - 9 ILYBNILWY - January 2009 Status - Limbo
