First Piecing Thread

[Hope4us]

WDID,

If she IS going thru withdrawal, and it's because she is doing what her husband has asked her to do, it's it imperative that she COMMUNICATE that to him? Isn't that the whole point to no-contact, transparency and recovery -- for them BOTH to communicate with each other honestly, and begin to try to heal their marriage?

Put more simply, if withdrawal is causing bitchiness, and she doesn't tell him, doesn't she just come across as, well, a b*tch??

Puppy

Ideally that's the way it should be. But I think her stubbornness gets in the way. And if she tells me she ended contact with him, that would be her admitting that she's lied to me on many occasions over the last year. And I just don't see her doing that.

I did ask her at one point last night, "Are you ok"? She looked at me and said "yes", kind of quietly and I just said "you seem like you're down about something. If you want to talk, I'm here" and she said "everything is fine". I replied with a simple "ok".

Could be that WDID is correct. Could be that our talk a couple weeks ago burned away some of the fog and made her realize she needed to completely end contact with OM and now she's in WD.

All the symptoms are there. The wild mood swings. The seeming bouts of depression. Her not wanting me touching her. If that's what's going on, I just hope she sticks with it.

Thanks again.