I Never Imagined Being Here

[Making_IT]

Thanks for your comments on my thread. Of course I'm new here too, but I read your thread and I'd encourage you to read the Divorce Remedy too. I found it to be a better fit for applying the 180, "as if", etc. concepts and I think you might find it useful.

My two cents would be to really, really give her some space now that she's moved into the apt. Occasionally, call or text, etc. and start a journal or post it here so you can record what you tried, and how it worked.

I echo your concerns over closing accounts/taking spouse's name off the cards and how spouse will 'feel' about that. I think the conventional wisdom here would be not to worry about with your W thinks about that right now - just take of yourself and make good choices for you. Let her see that you're strong, you're taking care of yourself, and you'll be fine without her. Working on GAL, like your long workouts, and being with friends. I'm feeling much better than I did two weeks ago by working on GAL for what it's worth.

I can't wait for the book to arrive, it shows that it is in transit. I have been trying to apply many of the concepts that I have read on this forum such as detaching and trying to GAL.

I can't lie, it has been hard because I have never known an adult life without her. It does seem that each day things are a little easier when we haven't had contact. Every time we try to talk about the situation, she will start getting angry and blaming me for her actions. It is almost like it resets my odometer when she does that. I feel even more hopeless and confused.