My situation #9

[steady]

gucci I understand that's your position. But you aren't living my life and seeing EVERYTHING that I'm seeing. You only see what I post here at the boards.

Seeing the stub from the concert, the bill from the hotel, her calling me and telling me her room number - the hotel is 10 min away and I could have easily jumped in my car and drove over there - my W has a habit of telling everything in detail so she's a hell of an actress when she told me everything she did at the hotel - she was telling me details that were so small that she could have easily left them out when she told me about her day on Sat. I didn't ask a single question so she didn't need to even tell me anything. Sleeping in and missing her L appointment, etc..

Last year she did the same thing for her birthday and went to the same hotel.

And it doesn't change anything. We are working on a separation agreement, she's said she wants a divorce, I'll be moving out once the agreement is settled and that's where we are heading. From my POV, the only thing it changes is me being able to throw it in her face - but what would that accomplish? If she were having an A what am I going to do - tell her we need to seperate, tell her I want a D if she doesn't stop...lol. Those things are already in the works.

I think when a S hides an affair and think you don't know about it there is no respect issue (except for the fact they already don't respect you as evidenced by an A), it's when you know your S is having an affair and allow it - that's enabling, and that's where they lose their respect for you.

I understand your POV, however, just remember you are only seeing a fraction of my life by what I post. Unless you've walked one step in my shoes I don't think you're in a position to call me naive.

But I do appreciate you stopping by my thread.