Venus direct 2-3rd of May : what happened to that?
I agree with Simon, I already told you on the phone. WHat you must use now is the connection he says he feels with you, the fact that he feels good with you (drank or not). Call him, send him emails, texts every week, invite him to fun outings, no pressure, just pure fun times... And try to get your hands on his snake too in the meantime. That's my advice K
Ha! Hands on his snake? He's got it under wraps, he's too moral.. not until she's history.
I know I should contact him now, but I still feel shy, stupid hey? Venus? Ok here it is...
He's having a major Pluto transit of his Venus. In his chart, he has Venus conjunct Pluto and since early 2007 and until late 2011, Pluto in the sky is squaring his Venus-Pluto EXACT...and as Venus goes around the sky, meeting, squaring, opposing Pluto and his Pluto-Venus in his chart, its triggering events in his lovelife. Its said whenever there is a Pluto-Venus transit, there are always 3 people involved, even if one of them is only in the head of the other. These are the exact dates and there months in between each contact usually. Venus is currently going backwards and the freaky pattern continues...
Venus square Pluto - 20 Feb 2007 - the weekend he announced to his Mum we were getting married Venus opposed - 7 May - weekend we were doing up the flat, he said he 'snapped' then Venus square (and conjunct his Pluto/Venus) - 5 November - The weekend of the bomb !! Venus conjunct Pluto - 26th Jan 2008 - the day he moved out !! Venus square - 6 April - the day he gave me his phone number and started calling daily from this point on! Venus opposed - 19 June - surprise took me to dinner, was depressed and didnt seem to want to leave Venus square (and conjunct his Pluto/Venus) - 29 August - the day he started dating her? Venus conjunct - 12th November - week he got back in touch, saw me for a drink Venus squared - 6 Feb 2009 - Night G told me everything ex said about missing me Venus square - 3rd April - Wanted to see me after 4 months, big emotional showdown!
Venus turns Direct so... Venus square again - 2-3rd May - hmm???
OK! Not moral.. learnt behaviour.. the "I'm never doing that again" (be unfaithful).
BND.. this classes as some serious astrological research.. to track a sitch so closely, its freaky! Things happen to us in life when personal planets (his Venus) are 'transited'.. contacted, by the Outer planets (Neptune, Uranus, Saturn, Pluto).. and marks a phase of life where a sitch plays out over long periods of time.. 1-5 years typically, but you can time points of 'crisis' or events within that phase of life exactly when one of the Personal planets (like the Moon, Mars, or Venus).. comes along and contacts the outer planet, sort of switching it 'on', activating it... um.. makes sense!? Clear as mud hey...
So the major transit pattern is Pluto squaring his Venus.. and Venus in the sky is going around activating that Pluto.. Pluto-Venus is about transformation of relationships, how you relate and also indicates a time of affairs, and sexual and other obsessions and takes you to the depths of despair, down into hell. Oh and it also drains your finances to the depths too (he told me Thursday he is nearly all out of savings! Figures).
I have to agree w/Kalni b/c if the urge to kiss him strikes, let him have one and go from there.
I wouldn't worry about anything w/him other than the now, so be his friend, invite him out (like M suggested), and contact him every so often.
You've got zero to lose and everything to gain. Remember, he's stated how much he's missed you, so some friendship and a little teasing/flirting can't hurt your cause, my lady.
Thanks guys! Its hard.. when someone has systematically pushed you away, rejected you, ignored you.. as determinedly as he has.. it takes alot of courage and b*lls to step over that and just reach out for him.. I will try. If its hard for me.. imagine how hard it is for him hey! I can understnd that. Still.. I never doubted that he still loved me, maybe I doubted it for a few hours on New Years Eve, when I didnt even know where he was (funny I have since found out he didnt spend it with her.. which is significant. My ex loves NYE and wouldnt have dreamt of being apart from me that night when we were together).
I wanted to share with you the defining moment of Friday night when I realised I was still in love with him. I was chatting to his best friend here (not G, another guy he used to work with). This guy was going home early as he had a 7am tee off..we all said goodbye as he stood up to leave.. but my ex was very sad he was going home so early.. so he stood up too, lent over the table, put his hand round the back of this guys neck, pulled his forehead to meet his forehead, held him a moment and said "I love you man".. and then hugged him and then they had a big ole blokey back slap.
And thats why I love him. He strangely isnt afraid to show his vunerability, his emotions, he isnt afraid to show his male friends he loves them, neverlone tell them! He has a big heart. He makes people feel special.
Ali, can you replace the word "hard" with "fear" and then try to explain or put words to those fears. Like are you afraid of losing him---then you can rationalise that fear. Pushing him away Making him make/reach a decision etc etc.
Would the person he loved, the old you that is now you again have been spontanious (sp) or cautious. I think she wore her heart on her sleeve and shared it with the world. Like Rob said you have zero to lose.
