Hi Maria,I am guessing but I think the way your h is behaving is more the normal for him than not. You have seen these traits all along but young love and babies meant you didn't forcus on them so much and you hadn't had the time alone and now you have had the time alone, you have seen real love up close and personal and now H's normal is more than you can bare.
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I dont care what other people say here about waiting years and years their Xspouses to come back after divorcing OPs, raising their new babies with OPs, hoping that once their child will marry, then they will get them back.
I am not like that, sorry. Maybe I am more human, meaning flawed.
No I call that being normal and healthy. We cannot know what "problems" many posters have that are not directly related to their marriage,that makes them hope these things and wait.Others do so because of their religion. I certainly do not see your happiness as opposed to your childrens happiness. In my experience children are affected more by the unhappiness of the parent they live with,rather than having an absentee parent. So try not to feel selfish on that score. The one MIA will have to make their own relationship with their children and often seem to spend more quality time with the kids than when they were all living under the same roof.
I can't say jump or not,that is your call but I can say I think it is nearly time to decide. Give the pie chart ago,but don't hold your breath or have expectations. ((((())))) Ali calls this my pride but do you want a marriage to a man that you have to give up so much of who you really are for just to keep that man by your side or not as the case may be. The life your living now seems harder than if you were a single parent.
