Poly, I never had the type of anger that you describe above. I probably had all the right to but for whatever reason it never reached sucha crescendo. What I tell myself to control the anger that sometimes creeps ups is the following: please keep in mind that these are not taken from any book or councellor but they work for me. 1) there are plenty of nice people in the world....nicer than my ex wife..... 2) one person on this planet can not control my happiness.... 3) I am far from perfect......her loss..... That is it. Pretty simplistic....I have a good circle of friends and family. I do not bring my issues there. I discuss them on this forum. For this reason, I think this place has helped me immenselly.
