2 years has really been more than I can take. That's why I had started to file for legal separation. And maybe because taking those legal steps could really put me at the point-of-no-return, I tried to rekindle a physical relationship and made love with him Friday night after having set that a boundary against it a year ago...
I will read the DB and DR books thoroughly now... I too feel I should've done that a year ago... But in all honesty, do you think it may actually be too late to get him back? I know it would help me either way to read and learn to GAL and make changes in myself to become stronger... I just feel he's with this OW because she my complete opposite, a strong, independent, German career-minded woman. I don't know how I could beat that having been a stay at home mom.
But I do value your advice and hope to hear from you and others to gain my strength back... Actually, when we my H and I first met, he found me to be a strong independent woman. But motherhood was most important to me and I devoted my life to that... Also, the throughout our relationship, there had been other infidelities before which hadn't helped my confidence...
Thanks for your advise.
M51, H49, D21 M 23yrs, T 28yrs 3/07 - OW Bomb 6/07 - move to MIL's; OW relocate 10/07 - OW2 Bomb 5/08 - secretly move to OW2's end/08 - secretly get beach apt w/OW2 2/09 I petition Legal Sep, not served yet
